I saw an alarming trend this past week: the idea if we should celebrate Mother’s Day. Writers and commenters alike spoke about dreading Sunday morning when the pastor would ask all the mothers in the congregation to stand, leaving behind those who were still barren. Or roses being passed out to mothers while others walked away empty-handed.
So voices began to rise saying that perhaps we should re-think Mother’s Day. It is a day of indescribable pain for those who long to be mothers, but have been denied the joy. Or for those who have lost mothers. Or have lost children through miscarriages. Why celebrate a day that hurts?
I understand. I have friends and family members who struggled with infertility. I have friends and family who have lost children. I have experienced a miscarriage myself. It is shocking experience to lose a life that should be shielded inside you. After all, if you can’t protect the child inside you, how will you protect the child outside you?
I also understand mothers. It is a hard, thankless job, with no days off, no vacation, no pay. You feel like a failure often. You give up your body, your time, and your dreams to bring up the next generation. Yes, you love the little tykes and would throw yourself in front of a moving truck to save them, but they sometimes drive you up a wall!
And secretly you wonder what kind of life you would have had if you didn’t have children. A career? Traveled the world? Wrote that book sitting in the back of your mind?
Being a mother, and being motherless are both extremely hard. Two different worlds that sometimes collide. Yet we can peer into each other’s lives and support one another in this way: Romans 12: 15 says, “Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.”
We who are mothers should not forget our sisters who have not experienced the joy of motherhood. We should weep with them in their pain.
And we who are barren should not be jealous of the joy of our sisters, but rather be happy for them. We both carry a burden that is heavy and discouraging at times.
So should we celebrate Mother’s Day? A day to be thankful for mothers and show them our love? I say yes. Each of us has or had a mother. Without them, we would not be here. In a world that is growing less appreciative of mothers (and fathers), let us not take away a day in which our thoughts and hearts turn toward mothers and celebrate them in our lives.
What about you? Do you think we should celebrate Mother’s Day? Why or why not?